Activism, elderhood, and public shaming

Source: Activism, elderhood, and public shaming

I’m still trying to put my own thoughts into words over this issue, and they are not coming easily. In the meantime, here’s someone else’s point of view on the matter.

Cue the fucking wahmbulance

Happy Monday! Let’s all celebrate the new week with a little sweet justice, in the form of a tale of woe plucked from Reddit: An anonymous dude is very upset that, after he maneuvered his “big girl” girlfriend into an open relationship so he could score with mad babes, she’s getting loads more dates than him.

Read the rest over at :
Dude’s Demand for an Open Relationship Backfires Spectacularly

Taking Offense, and Being in Pain


It seems my article (Hey go look at it, it’s right here: ) is getting a reaction (And yes, I am listening to The Heavy’s “Love Like That” right now) and the issue that always fascinates me the most is when arguments rest on how everyone is angry, offended, scared, and confused by whatever it is being talked about.

And I see the same refrain of people being offended by other people’s offense.  Even the term ‘offensive’ is offensive these days to a lot of people, but rage makes it hard to see that irony.  Which I get – rage makes it hard to see anything except potential targets, because I imagine that anger really is about our brains and bodies trying to solve a problem by fixation that is sometimes quite helpful, and sometimes entirely unhelpful.  (I’ve read a lot on the subject in Psychology, Cognitive Science and…

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Genealogy software

Over at Open Thread Thursday at Geneablogger, they are asking about running multiple genealogy software programs.

There are a lot of them choose from (Cyndi’s List of Genealogy Software and Computers is a comprehensive sampling of what’s available); for many years, I preferred using Personal Ancestral File (PAF) as my primary desktop (laptop) program and then would export a cleaned GEDCOM file from that for use on my genealogy website,, with occasional supplementation from an older version of Family Tree Maker (FTM) (link is to the most recent version, I was using version 7 way back when).

A couple of years ago, I switched from using PAF in favour of FTM 2010. While there are still things about FTM that make me want to scream, I do like the built-in search capability for (as well as other sites, and you can add additional ones to your search menu); PAF was limited to only searching on

I’m still having to export a GEDCOM file to upload to my website, plus make some additional clean-up/corrections to it; my eventual goal is to exclusively use my website for both data collection and display, as each version of Darrin Lythgoe’s The Next Generation of Genealogy Sitebuilding becomes more robust with each new version.

Blashpemy, free speech and the law, part 2

Continuing on this line of thought:

Kansas woman charged in flag-desecration case files suit

By The Associated Press
OMAHA, Neb. — A Kansas woman accused of violating Nebraska’s flag-desecration law two years ago filed a lawsuit Dec. 30 against more than a dozen officials, including the state’s governor and attorney general, whom she alleges are trampling on her rights.

The lawsuit filed on Shirley Phelps-Roper’s behalf in U.S. District Court in Lincoln argues that Nebraska’s flag law and another state law that restricts protests at funerals should be declared unconstitutional and barred from being enforced.

(Remainder of story at link, above.)

To be continued…


As some know, I have several journals that I occasionally update. These include sites at LiveJournal, InsaneJournal, Dreamwidth and here at Blogger.

Of all of them, this is the one that gets the least use; something I am hoping to remedy during the coming year.

I tend to ramble about a lot of things, ranging from spirituality/religion to gender issues to freedom of speech to whatever happens to have crawled up my butt at any given point in time. I also post jokes and humor bits (see previous) that various relatives and friends have sent.

I can’t guarantee that I will be any more focused in the future than I have in the past, but I do hope to be posting here more often; posts from here will also be cross-posted to my Facebook account.